Breakups are absolute rubbish, there’s no way around it. However, wallowing in misery won’t get you anywhere.
What you need are some powerful mantras to pull you out of that funk and remind you of your worth. These aren’t fluffy platitudes; they’re mental lifelines to grab onto when you’re drowning in post-breakup despair. Here are some to recite when you’re going through incredible heartache.
1. “This pain is temporary.”
Right now, it feels like your world is ending. It’s not. This mantra reminds you that emotions are transient. The pain you’re feeling is intense, but it won’t last forever. Your brain is literally going through withdrawal from the feel-good chemicals associated with your ex. But like any withdrawal, it will pass. This mantra helps you zoom out and see the bigger picture. Don’t dismiss your feelings, but do try to put them in perspective.
2. “I am complete on my own.”
You were a whole person before this relationship, and you’re still a whole person now. This mantra counters the notion that you need someone else to complete you. It’s a reminder of your inherent worth and self-sufficiency. You don’t need a partner to validate your existence or happiness. This mantra helps rebuild your sense of self, which often takes a hit during a breakup. It’s so important to reclaim your identity outside of the relationship.
3. “Every ending is a new beginning.”
It’s cliché, but it’s true. This mantra shifts your focus from what you’ve lost to what you might gain. That’s not to say you should ignore the pain of the breakup. However, try to see the opportunities it opens up. Maybe you’ll rediscover old passions, make new friends, or learn more about yourself. This mantra encourages you to look forward rather than backward. Embrace change and the potential for growth.
4. “I choose my own happiness.”
Your happiness isn’t dependent on someone else. This mantra is a powerful reminder that you’re in control of your own emotional state. You don’t have to force yourself to be happy, but you should know that you have the power to work towards happiness. This mantra encourages you to take active steps in your own life, rather than passively waiting for someone else to make you happy. It’s about reclaiming your agency.
5. “I’m learning and growing from this experience.”
Every relationship, even ones that end, teaches us something. This mantra helps you reframe the breakup as a learning opportunity rather than just a loss. What have you learned about yourself? About what you want in a partner? About how you behave in relationships? This mantra encourages self-reflection and personal growth. It’s about extracting value from a painful experience and using it to become a better, stronger person.
6. “I release what no longer serves me.”
This mantra is about letting go. It applies not just to your ex, but also to the hopes, dreams, and plans you had for the relationship. It’s about acknowledging that holding onto these things is causing you pain. This mantra encourages you to actively release what’s no longer part of your life. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary for moving forward. It’s about making space in your life for new experiences and opportunities.
7. “I am worthy of love and respect.”
Breakups can do a number on your self-esteem. This mantra is a powerful affirmation of your inherent worth. It reminds you that you deserve to be treated well, both by other people and by yourself. This isn’t about ego or arrogance; it’s about maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. This mantra can be particularly helpful if the relationship ended in a way that made you question your value. It’s about rebuilding your self-esteem from the inside out.
8. “This too shall pass.”
Similar to the first mantra, but with a different focus. This ancient adage reminds you that nothing lasts forever — neither the good times nor the bad. It’s a call for patience and perspective. When you’re in the thick of breakup pain, it can feel endless. This mantra reminds you that you will get through this. You don’t need to rush the healing process (and you can’t do that anyway), but about having faith that healing will come.
9. “I trust in my ability to heal.”
Your heart’s been battered, but it’s resilient. This mantra is about having faith in your own strength and capacity for healing. You’ve overcome challenges before, and you’ll overcome this one too. This mantra encourages self-trust and patience. Trust that you have what it takes to get through this difficult time. It’s a reminder of your inner strength and resilience.
10. “I choose to focus on what I can control.”
You can’t control your ex’s actions or feelings. You can’t control the past. But you can control your own actions and responses. This mantra is about redirecting your energy towards what you can actually influence. It’s about taking back your power and focusing on your own life. This mantra encourages proactive behaviour rather than reactive wallowing. It’s about making conscious choices that move you forward, even when you’re hurting.
