Getting older doesn’t mean you have to become a grumpy old git, but it does mean it’s time to grow up a bit.
If you want people to take you seriously and treat you with respect as you age, there are some habits and behaviours you might need to chuck in the bin. Here’s a look at what you should consider leaving behind.
1. You constantly moan about “kids these days”.
We’ve all been guilty of this at some point, but it’s time to pack it in. Every generation has its quirks, and constantly griping about younger people makes you sound like a right misery guts. Instead of complaining, try to understand their perspective. You might learn something new, and you’ll definitely come across as more open-minded and approachable.
2. You refuse to adapt to new technology.
Look, no one’s expecting you to become a tech wizard overnight, but flat-out refusing to learn new things is a guaranteed way to get left behind. Whether it’s figuring out how to use a smartphone or getting your head around social media, making an effort to keep up with tech shows you’re willing to adapt and stay relevant. It’s not about being trendy — it’s about staying connected and informed.
3. You gossip about everyone and their dog.
Gossiping might feel like harmless fun, but it’s a habit that can seriously damage your reputation. As you get older, people expect you to be more mature and discreet. If you’re known as the neighbourhood busybody or the office gossip, you’ll find it hard to earn respect. Try focusing on more positive conversations instead — you’ll be surprised how much more people will value your company.
4. You always play the victim card.
Life can be tough, no doubt about it. But if you’re constantly painting yourself as the victim in every situation, people will start to lose patience. Taking responsibility for your actions and choices is a sign of maturity. It shows you’re self-aware and willing to learn from your mistakes. Plus, it’s much more empowering than always blaming other people or circumstances for your problems.
5. You can’t admit when you’re wrong.
Being able to say “I messed up” or “I was wrong” is a real sign of maturity. If you’re always digging your heels in, even when it’s clear you’ve made a mistake, people will start to see you as stubborn and unreasonable. Admitting your errors shows humility and a willingness to learn — qualities that earn respect at any age.
6. You judge people based on outdated stereotypes.
The world’s changing rapidly, and holding on to old prejudices will definitely make people lose respect for you. Whether it’s about race, gender, sexuality, or anything else, making snap judgements based on stereotypes shows a lack of critical thinking and empathy. Try to approach people and situations with an open mind — you’ll be seen as wiser and more compassionate for it.
7. You constantly compare everything to “the good old days”.
Nostalgia can be nice, but if you’re always banging on about how things were better in your day, you’ll come across as out of touch. Every era has its pros and cons. Instead of dwelling on the past, try to appreciate the good things about the present. It shows you’re adaptable and able to find joy in new experiences, rather than being stuck in the past.
8. You refuse to take care of your health.
Ignoring your health isn’t a sign of toughness — it’s just plain daft. As you get older, taking care of yourself becomes even more important. This doesn’t mean you need to become a fitness fanatic, but regular check-ups, eating well, and staying active show that you respect yourself. People are more likely to respect you if you’re making an effort to stay healthy and vibrant.
9. You’re always trying to one-up everyone.
We all know that person who always has to have the last word or the best story. If that’s you, it’s time to tone it down. Constantly trying to outdo people in conversation makes you seem insecure and attention-seeking. Instead, try listening more and showing genuine interest in what other people have to say. You’ll be seen as more confident and mature.
10. You refuse to apologise sincerely.
A genuine apology goes a long way, especially as you get older. If you’re the type to give half-hearted “sorry if you were offended” non-apologies, or worse, refuse to apologise at all, you’re not doing yourself any favours. Being able to sincerely say sorry when you’ve messed up shows emotional intelligence and maturity — qualities that command respect.
11. You litter or disrespect public spaces.
It might seem like a small thing, but how you treat shared spaces says a lot about you. Dropping litter, not cleaning up after yourself, or generally disrespecting public areas makes you look inconsiderate and immature. Taking care of your environment, even in small ways, shows you’re a responsible member of the community — something that naturally earns respect.
12. You can’t control your temper.
Flying off the handle at the slightest provocation is not a good look, especially as you get older. Losing your rag in public, whether it’s road rage or shouting at shop assistants, makes you seem unstable and immature. Learning to manage your emotions and respond calmly to frustrations is a key part of growing up, no matter your age.
13. You’re always skint and cadging money.
Financial struggles can happen to anyone, but if you’re constantly broke and borrowing money from mates, it’s time to sort yourself out. Being perpetually skint as you get older suggests you can’t manage your finances, which doesn’t inspire confidence or respect. Learning to budget, live within your means, and save a bit can make a huge difference to how people perceive you.
14. You’re glued to your phone in social situations.
We’re all guilty of checking our phones too often, but if you’re constantly scrolling during conversations or meals, you’re sending a clear message that you don’t value the company you’re in. As you get older, being present and engaged in social situations becomes even more important. Put the phone away and give people your full attention — it’s a simple way to show respect and earn it in return.
15. You refuse to learn from younger people.
Just because someone’s younger doesn’t mean they can’t teach you something valuable. If you dismiss ideas or advice just because they come from someone younger, you’re missing out on potential growth and showing a lack of humility. Being open to learning from all ages shows wisdom and adaptability — traits that naturally command respect.
16. You’re always late and waste people’s time.
Constantly running late or cancelling plans at the last minute shows a lack of respect for other people’s time. As you get older, being reliable and punctual becomes even more important. It shows you value people and can be depended upon — qualities that naturally earn respect in both personal and professional settings.
17. You refuse to take responsibility for your own happiness.
Blaming everyone else for your unhappiness only serves to push people away. As you age, taking charge of your own wellbeing becomes crucial. This doesn’t mean you have to be cheerful all the time, but recognising that your happiness is largely in your own hands shows emotional maturity and self-awareness — traits that naturally command respect.
18. You’re too proud to ask for help when you need it.
There’s a common misconception that asking for help is a sign of weakness, especially as we get older. In reality, knowing when to reach out for support shows self-awareness and humility. Whether it’s asking for advice on a tricky work problem or getting a hand with a DIY project, being able to admit you don’t know everything is a sign of maturity that earns respect.
