Stress is a natural part of life, but it can take a serious toll on your health and your relationships.
If your partner is going through a challenging time and their stress levels are through the roof, you might be arguing more than normal, or you might just be struggling to deal with seeing them so upset and overwhelmed. However, part of being a good partner is being there for your other half when they need you most, and helping them through tough times. Here’s how to deal with your partner’s stress, even if you can’t alleviate it entirely for them (which, to be fair, isn’t exactly your responsibility anyway!).
1. Stay calm and grounded yourself.
Source: Unsplash When your partner is stressed, it’s important to remain calm and collected. Your own sense of calm will help create a more peaceful atmosphere and make it easier for both of you to handle the situation. Your ability to stay grounded helps provide stability during tense moments.
2. Be a good listener without jumping in to fix everything.
Sometimes, your partner just needs to vent. Listen to what they’re saying without immediately trying to offer solutions. Just being there and listening attentively can help them feel supported and heard. Offering a non-judgemental ear shows them you’re fully present.
3. Avoid taking their stress personally.
It’s easy to feel like your partner’s stress is directed at you, but that’s often not the case. Try not to take their frustration personally and instead focus on understanding the root cause of their stress. Giving them space to express their feelings helps you both maintain perspective.
4. Ask them what they need.
Instead of assuming what might help, ask your partner directly what they need. Whether it’s space, a conversation, or help with a specific task, understanding their needs will allow you to provide better support. This approach helps them feel respected and valued.
5. Offer practical help where you can.
If your partner is overwhelmed by daily tasks, offer to step in and take something off their plate. Even small actions like doing the washing up or handling an errand can make a big difference in easing their load. Showing you’re willing to share the burden encourages a team mentality.
6. Avoid giving unsolicited advice.
While you might have helpful suggestions, sometimes advice can feel overwhelming when someone is already stressed. Instead, wait until they ask for your input, or gently ask if they’d like to hear your thoughts. Offering advice only when it’s welcome shows that you respect their boundaries.
7. Give them space if they need it.
Sometimes, your partner might just need time alone to process their stress. Respect their need for space, and don’t take it as a sign of rejection. Allowing them room to decompress gives them the opportunity to manage their emotions on their own terms.
8. Be patient with their emotional responses.
Stress can sometimes cause people to be more irritable or emotional than usual. If your partner lashes out or seems short-tempered, try to remain patient and understanding. Patience shows that you are committed to supporting them, even through difficult emotions.
9. Avoid adding more pressure.
When your partner is stressed, try to avoid bringing up additional problems or concerns. Adding more to their mental load can worsen their stress. Helping them focus on one thing at a time can alleviate feelings of being overwhelmed.
10. Encourage healthy outlets for stress.
Gently suggest healthy ways for your partner to relieve their stress, like exercise, meditation, or taking a walk. Offering to join them can also be a great way to support them while spending quality time together. Helping them engage in positive activities shows that you care about their well-being.
11. Don’t force positivity.
While being optimistic is important, trying to force your partner to “look on the bright side” can feel dismissive of their feelings. Instead, acknowledge their stress and offer support without pushing them to be overly positive. Validating their emotions helps them feel understood and accepted.
12. Check in regularly without overwhelming them.
It’s important to show your partner that you’re there for them, but checking in too frequently can feel suffocating. Find a balance by giving them space but also making sure they know you’re available whenever they need support. Small check-ins let them know you’re there without putting pressure on them.
13. Create a relaxing environment at home.
Help your partner unwind by making home a relaxing space. Whether it’s dimming the lights, playing soft music, or preparing their favourite meal, small touches can help create a peaceful environment where they can de-stress. A calm environment helps them feel safe and supported.
14. Be mindful of your own energy.
It’s easy to absorb your partner’s stress if you’re not careful. Make sure you’re taking care of your own well-being and finding ways to manage any stress you might feel as a result. Taking care of your own energy ensures you can offer the best support without burning out.
15. Be compassionate and show love.
Above all, remember to show your partner love and compassion. A simple hug, words of encouragement, or a small gesture of kindness can remind them that they’re not alone in dealing with their stress. Consistent compassion strengthens your bond and reassures them during hard times.
