We’ve all met someone who insists everything’s perfect, but something feels… off.

They go out of their way to portray their life as wonderful and amazing and themselves as totally happy and fulfilled, but you get the distinct sense that they’re full of BS and that things aren’t so rosy below the surface. If they say any of the following things, your hunch is probably right — they’re not doing as well as they claim.
1. “I’m just so busy all the time.”

Being constantly swamped isn’t the badge of honour some think it is. Sure, life gets hectic, but non-stop busyness often hides something deeper. It might be a way to avoid dealing with personal issues or a sign that someone’s struggling to manage their time effectively. Next time you hear this, consider whether they’re truly productive or just spinning their wheels.
2. “Everything’s fine.”

When someone answers with this vague statement, especially without enthusiasm, it’s often a red flag. People who are genuinely content usually have specific positive things to say about their lives. This phrase can be a quick way to deflect deeper questions. If you hear it often from someone, they might be struggling to open up about what’s really going on.
3. “I’m just waiting for things to get better.”

Passive hope without action is a recipe for disappointment. This phrase might indicate someone feels stuck or overwhelmed, unsure how to improve their situation. It could also signal a lack of confidence in their ability to effect change. Encouraging them to take small, concrete steps might help break this cycle of waiting.
4. “You wouldn’t understand.”

This dismissive phrase often masks feelings of isolation or uniqueness in one’s problems. It’s a way to shut down conversations and avoid vulnerability. When someone consistently uses this line, they might be struggling with feelings of alienation or have trouble trusting people with their true feelings. Responding with patience and openness might help them feel more comfortable sharing.
5. “I don’t need anyone’s help.”

Extreme self-reliance isn’t always a virtue. This phrase can indicate difficulty forming close relationships or accepting support. It might stem from past hurts or a fear of appearing weak. People who say this often might be struggling with trust issues or fear of dependence. Gently reminding them that it’s okay to lean on people sometimes can be helpful.
6. “I’m just tired.”

We all get sleepy, but when someone’s always “just tired,” it might be more than needing a nap. This phrase often covers up deeper issues like stress, depression, or feeling overwhelmed by life. If you hear this a lot from someone, they might be struggling with something they’re not ready to talk about.
7. “It is what it is.”

Sometimes this shows acceptance, but used too often, it can signal giving up. It might mean someone feels powerless to change their situation. They might be stuck in a rut, unsure how to move forward. A little encouragement to take action could go a long way.
8. “I’m fine, really.”

That extra “really” is a red flag. It’s like they’re trying to convince themselves as much as you. When someone insists they’re fine but their tone or body language says otherwise, they might be struggling to open up about their true feelings.
9. “I don’t want to talk about it.”

We all need privacy sometimes, but if someone’s constantly avoiding certain topics, it could mean trouble. They might be dealing with something painful or embarrassing that they’re not ready to face. Offering a listening ear without pressure might help them open up when they’re ready.
10. “It could be worse.”

Sure, perspective is good, but always comparing to worse situations isn’t healthy. It’s a way of dismissing your own valid feelings and problems. If someone’s always saying this, they might be minimising their own struggles instead of addressing them.
11. “I’m just focusing on work right now.”

Work is important, but it shouldn’t be everything. If someone’s always hiding behind their job, they might be avoiding other areas of life that aren’t going so well. Relationships, personal growth, or self-care might be taking a back seat.
12. “I’m not ready for a relationship.”

Sometimes this is true, but said often enough, it might hide deeper issues. Fear of intimacy, unresolved past hurts, or low self-esteem could be lurking beneath the surface. It’s worth exploring why they feel this way.
13. “I’ll be happy when…”

Happiness isn’t a destination. If someone’s always pushing their joy to some future event or achievement, they’re missing out on the present. It might indicate they’re not satisfied with their current life, but aren’t sure how to change it.
14. “I’m just going through a phase.”

Phases are temporary, but using this excuse for ongoing issues isn’t healthy. It might be a way of avoiding dealing with persistent problems or negative patterns. Encouraging them to address these “phases” head-on could be helpful.
15. “I don’t need much sleep.”

Unless they’re a rare genetic mutant, everyone needs good sleep. Bragging about little sleep often masks an unhealthy lifestyle or inability to slow down. It could be covering up anxiety, workaholism, or other stressors keeping them up at night.
16. “I’m living my best life.”

If someone’s always insisting their life is amazing, be a bit sceptical. Truly happy people don’t need to constantly convince anyone else. This phrase, especially when overused, might be masking insecurities or disappointments they’re not ready to face.
17. “I don’t care what anyone thinks.”

A little independence is great, but totally dismissing other people’s opinions can be a defence mechanism. It might indicate they’ve been hurt in the past or are protecting themselves from potential criticism. Healthy relationships involve some level of caring about what other people think.
18. “I’m just keeping busy.”

Like constant busyness, this can be a way of avoiding deeper issues. If someone’s always “keeping busy” without purpose, they might be running from something – boredom, loneliness, or dissatisfaction with their life direction.
19. “It’s not a big deal.”

Downplaying everything can be a sign of low self-esteem or fear of being a burden. If someone never admits when things are tough, they might be struggling to value their own feelings and experiences. Encouraging them to acknowledge when things are difficult could be a first step to addressing problems.
20. “I’m just doing this temporarily.”

We all have temporary situations, but if everything in someone’s life is “just for now,” it might signal a fear of commitment or lack of direction. It could be a way of avoiding taking responsibility for their life choices or fear of admitting their current situation isn’t what they want.
21. “I don’t need anyone.”

Extreme independence isn’t always healthy. Humans are social creatures, and totally rejecting the need for people often hides fear of vulnerability or past hurts. If someone’s always insisting they don’t need anyone, they might be protecting themselves from potential pain at the cost of good relationships.