While most people won’t put you down to your face, there are some who really are that rude and miserable that they’ll mock you without shame.
Whether it’s putting you down for a decision you’ve made or lecturing you on where you’ve gone wrong in life, these people will do what they can to make you feel bad about yourself for no other reason than that they can. However, it’s important that you tell them where to go, in so many words, and keep doing what feels right for you. Here are a few other things you can do when dealing with someone so awful.
1. Understand their behaviour isn’t about you.
When people mock your choices, it often stems from their insecurities or inability to understand a perspective different from their own. Recognising that their behaviour reflects more about them than you can help you take their words less personally. Mockery is often a projection of their doubts, fears, or frustrations. Focusing on your confidence in your decisions allows you to rise above their negativity and maintain your perspective.
2. Stay calm and composed.
Reacting emotionally to criticism gives other people more power over you. Instead, take a deep breath and maintain your composure. A calm demeanour shows that their comments don’t shake you and keeps the situation from escalating unnecessarily. Staying grounded also demonstrates maturity, making it clear that their opinion doesn’t dictate your choices.
3. Be clear about your choices.
Sometimes people mock out of ignorance rather than malice. A clear explanation of your decisions can help them understand where you’re coming from. Calmly stating something like, “This is what works best for me,” or “I’ve thought a lot about this and feel confident in my decision,” can shut down unnecessary judgment. Providing clarity leaves little room for further criticism.
4. Use banter to break the tension.
A more playful response can take the sting out of their words. If someone mocks your career choice, for instance, a simple, “Well, somebody’s got to keep things interesting!” can disarm them and shift the focus away from the criticism. Using humour shows you’re not bothered by their remarks and keeps the interaction light instead of confrontational.
5. Set boundaries firmly but politely.
Let people know when their comments cross the line. You might say, “I appreciate your concern, but I’d rather not discuss this,” or “That’s a personal decision, and I’m happy with it.” This communicates that you respect yourself and won’t tolerate unnecessary negativity without creating hostility. Establishing boundaries helps maintain healthy interactions while prioritising your well-being.
6. Redirect the conversation.
If the mockery feels persistent, steer the discussion toward a neutral or positive topic. For instance, if someone mocks your hobbies, ask them about theirs instead. You can shift the focus this way and avoid any more drama. It also shows that you’re uninterested in engaging with their negativity and would rather talk about something constructive.
7. Limit your exposure to critical people.
While you can’t always avoid these individuals, reducing your time around them helps protect your mental health. Spending too much time with critics can drain your energy, so prioritise relationships with those who support and uplift you. Choose quality over quantity when it comes to your social circle, and don’t hesitate to distance yourself from toxic interactions.
8. Strengthen your confidence.
The more confident you feel in your decisions, the less other people’s opinions will affect you. Spend time reflecting on why you made your choices and how they align with your values. A strong sense of self makes criticism less impactful. Celebrate your successes, however small, as they’re proof that your path is the right one for you.
9. Don’t engage in arguments.
Defending your choices against someone who mocks them often leads to frustration rather than resolution. Instead, calmly assert your position and let it rest. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for living your life the way you see fit. Arguing often gives mockers more ammunition, so holding your ground calmly can be a powerful statement.
10. Surround yourself with supportive people.
Source: Unsplash A strong network of positive, encouraging individuals can help counteract the negativity from critics. When you’re surrounded by people who cheer you on, the mocking comments lose their sting and become easier to ignore. Make an effort to nurture these relationships—they’ll remind you of your worth and help keep your spirits high.
11. Practise self-compassion.
Source: Unsplash Mocking can chip away at your self-esteem, but being kind to yourself helps build resilience. Remind yourself that your worth isn’t determined by anyone else’s opinions. When criticism feels heavy, take time to nurture your well-being through self-care, affirmations, or journaling. Treat yourself with the kindness and understanding you’d offer to a close friend.
12. Stand up for yourself when necessary.
While avoiding conflict is often the best route, there are moments when it’s important to assert yourself. If someone repeatedly mocks you, a direct response like, “I don’t appreciate those comments,” or “That’s uncalled for,” can make it clear that you won’t tolerate disrespect. Sometimes, speaking up firmly but respectfully is the only way to establish boundaries.
13. Accept that not everyone will understand.
Your life choices won’t resonate with everyone, and that’s okay. Accepting this reality can free you from chasing external validation. Not everyone will agree with or support your decisions, but the only approval that truly matters is your own. Focus on living authentically rather than trying to win everyone’s approval—it’s liberating.
14. Remember your life is yours to live.
At the end of the day, you’re the one who lives with the consequences and joys of your decisions—not those who mock them. Keep reminding yourself that your happiness and fulfilment matter most. Other people’s opinions are just noise. Embrace the freedom that comes with owning your choices, and let that confidence guide you forward.
