When someone you love about is depressed, it’s hard to know how to handle it.
While offering some words of comfort and reassurance can be a good thing, you also don’t want to come off as dismissive or offer unsolicited advice. The good thing is that choosing the right words can make a world of difference in showing that you care and that they’re not alone. Saying these things shows empathy and support, without belittling their feelings or pushing them to feel differently.
1. “I’m here for you, no matter what.”
Source: Unsplash Let them know you’re there for them unconditionally. Depression can make someone feel isolated, so offering consistent support and reassuring them that you’re available for anything they need can help them feel less alone.
2. “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
Sometimes, just hearing that someone is there to help shoulder the burden can make a huge difference. Remind them that they don’t need to face their struggles in isolation and that you’re there to walk alongside them through the tough times.
3. “It’s okay to not be okay.”
Depression often brings with it a sense of shame or the feeling that they need to hide their struggles. Reassure them that it’s perfectly normal to feel low and that there’s no need to pretend to be fine when they’re not.
4. “I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way.”
Sometimes, simple empathy is the best thing you can offer. Acknowledging their pain without trying to fix it shows that you understand their struggle, without making it seem like you’re minimising their experience.
5. “What can I do to support you?”
Rather than assuming what they need, ask them directly how you can help. This gives them control over the situation and lets them know that you’re willing to assist in ways that are most helpful to them.
6. “You are so important to me.”
Depression often clouds people’s self-worth. Remind them that they matter to you and to the world. It can help to hear that their existence is valued and that they are a cherished part of your life.
7. “I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here to listen.”
While you may not fully understand what they’re experiencing, offering a safe space for them to talk without judgment can help. Let them know you’re willing to listen, even if you don’t have all the answers.
8. “You don’t have to explain everything to me, just take your time.”
Depression can be confusing and hard to articulate. Let them know that they don’t have to explain everything about what they’re feeling. Sometimes, simply being present and listening without pressure is exactly what they need.
9. “It’s okay to ask for help.”
Encourage them to talk to a therapist or counsellor if they’re not already. Remind them that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward getting better. Reassure them that getting some proper support can be a part of their healing process.
10. “You don’t have to have everything figured out right now.”
Depression can make everything seem overwhelming. Encourage them to take things one step at a time. Reassure them that they don’t need to have all the answers or solutions immediately. They’re allowed to heal at their own pace.
11. “You are not a burden.”
People with depression often feel like they’re a burden to those around them. Remind them that they are not a burden to you. Their struggles are valid, but their worth and value in your life remain unchanged.
12. “I admire your strength.”
Even when someone is struggling, acknowledging their resilience can make them feel seen. You don’t need to praise them for “getting over” it, but recognising the strength it takes to live with depression can be uplifting.
13. “Would you like to do something together?”
Depression can make people retreat from social interactions. Offering to spend time with them—whether it’s a quiet activity or just sitting together—shows that you care, without forcing them into anything they’re not ready for.
14. “I believe in you.”
Reassure them that you believe in their ability to get through this. Your belief in their strength and capacity for healing can offer hope when they’re feeling stuck or hopeless. Sometimes, knowing someone else believes in them can be a powerful motivator.
