Why You Tend To Dislike People In General The Older You Get

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No matter how much of a social creature you might be, there comes a point where you just can’t deal with people like you used to.

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You haven’t suddenly become antisocial; it’s just that you’ve seen enough to know when to save your energy. People are annoying, and the more time you spend with a lot of them, the more you realise that you feel much more at peace when you’re not around any of them. Here’s why you might be developing more of a distaste for your fellow human beings with every passing year.

1. The same stories keep playing out.

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You know that friend who keeps dating the same type of person? Or that coworker who always has dramatic weekend stories? After a while, you can predict exactly how things will unfold. You’ve watched these same situations play out so many times that you find yourself mentally fast-forwarding through conversations. Sometimes you catch yourself thinking, “Here we go again…” before anyone even finishes their sentence.

2. Small talk feels like sandpaper.

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Remember when you could chat about nothing for hours? Now, those conversations about the weather or generic weekend plans feel like they’re draining your life force. You find yourself avoiding certain people at the grocery store or taking the long way to your desk at work. The thought of another conversation about how fast the year is going makes you want to hide under your bed.

3. Your free time becomes sacred.

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After decades of giving your time to everyone else, you start getting picky about how you spend it. Those obligatory coffee dates and catch-up sessions don’t feel worth the effort anymore. You’ve sat through enough lengthy stories about someone’s cousin’s neighbour’s dog to last several lifetimes. These days, a quiet afternoon at home sounds way better than most social invitations.

4. The internet shows too much.

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Social media has pulled back the curtain on people you used to admire. That old friend from high school turned out to be a conspiracy theorist. Your favourite coworker shares nothing but toxic positivity quotes. The constant stream of oversharing and humblebrags makes you miss the days when you only knew what people chose to tell you in person.

5. Work relationships get old.

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The office politics that once seemed important now just feel like a bad TV show you’ve watched too many times. You’ve seen enough team-building exercises and motivational meetings to last forever. The forced enthusiasm in workplace chat channels makes you want to throw your laptop out the window. Sometimes you miss the days when work was just work.

6. You spot the games faster.

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Those subtle manipulations that used to fly under your radar now stick out like neon signs. You notice when someone’s trying to butter you up or when they’re setting up their next favour, ask. The social chess moves that everyone thinks are so clever become almost painfully obvious. Sometimes you wish you could go back to being more naive.

7. Drama looks different.

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Remember when friend group drama felt important? Now you watch the same cycles of fallouts and makeups with tired eyes. The group chats blowing up over who said what to whom just make you want to have a nap. You find yourself muting conversations more often than engaging in them.

8. You’ve seen behind too many masks.

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After years of watching people present one face to the world and another in private, the whole social performance gets exhausting. You’ve been to enough networking events where everyone’s selling something, including themselves. Sometimes you miss believing that people are exactly who they claim to be.

9. Online behaviour hits different.

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The way people act online starts getting under your skin more. That friend who posts about kindness but tears people down in private messages. The relatives who turn every post into a battleground. Those perfectly curated feeds that you know don’t match reality. You find yourself scrolling less and less, just to keep your blood pressure down.

10. Basic manners feel like a lost art.

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Remember when showing up on time was just… normal? Now it feels like everyone’s operating on their own special timeline. People cancel plans last minute through text like it’s nothing. That friend who’s always “just five minutes away” has been saying that for twenty years. You start wondering if your standards are too high, or if common courtesy just isn’t common anymore.

11. Nobody wants advice anymore.

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You watch people stumble through the same situations you’ve already survived, but they’re not interested in hearing about it. It’s like watching someone repeatedly stub their toe on the same table leg. After a while, you stop offering suggestions and just grab the popcorn. Sometimes it’s easier to let people figure things out the hard way.

12. The endless self-promotion gets old.

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Everyone’s becoming their own brand, and boy, is it tiring. Your inbox is full of people trying to sell you something or “pick your brain.” Each coffee meetup feels like a sneaky networking attempt. You miss the days when people just hung out without trying to leverage the relationship into something.

13. The fakeness is exhausting.

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The constant performance of happiness on social media, the forced enthusiasm at work, the pretend interest in small talk — it all starts feeling like a bad theatre production. You catch yourself rolling your eyes at another “living my best life” post from someone you know is miserable. Sometimes you just want to shout, “Can we all just be real for five minutes?”

14. Your energy has new limits.

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Those all-day hangouts that used to energise you now leave you needing a week to recover. Group activities feel like energy vampires rather than fun times. You find yourself making plans with an escape route already in mind. Your social battery just doesn’t recharge like it used to.

15. The world gets louder.

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Everyone seems to be shouting their opinions into the void, and nobody’s listening to anyone else. Your group chats are full of people talking past each other. Social media feels like a thousand people all trying to give speeches at once. Sometimes you just want to sit in blessed silence with your coffee and pretend phones were never invented.

16. Your bubble gets comfier.

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That small circle of people who really get you starts feeling more and more like enough. The thought of expanding your social circle sounds about as appealing as a root canal. You find yourself gravitating toward the few folks who don’t drain your energy. That quiet evening with one good friend becomes way more appealing than any party invitation.