If you tend to take things personally, you’re clearly a sensitive soul.

That’s not a bad thing, but it could cause problems both for you and your relationships with other people. After all, not everything is a personal slight, and in fact, most things aren’t about you. Thinking they are just makes you paranoid, anxious, and kind of sad. To keep yourself from absorbing every emotion around you, it can help to find ways to process things without carrying the full weight. Here are some suggestions that might help.
1. Notice when you’re making assumptions.

Much of what hurts us comes from stories we create in our minds. An unanswered text turns into worry that someone’s upset with us, or a coworker’s bad mood feels like something we’ve caused. Catching yourself in these thought spirals helps bring you back to reality, which is often simpler than the stories we tell ourselves.
2. Remember, everyone’s fighting their own battles.

The person who snapped at you might be dealing with their own stress. That friend’s distance could have nothing to do with you at all. People’s reactions are often about their own struggles and have little to do with you. Recognising this helps take the pressure off you and makes it easier to move on.
3. Keep a reality-check list.

Write down moments when you took something personally, only for it to turn out to be nothing. That project feedback wasn’t an attack on your abilities, and your friend’s cancellation wasn’t about avoiding you. Looking back at these times reminds you that assumptions are often just that—assumptions. Having this list can help put new situations in perspective.
4. Focus on what you can control.

Other people’s opinions or behaviours may sting, but you can’t control how they feel. What you can control is how you respond, how you care for yourself, and the boundaries you set. Putting your energy into what’s within your power feels far better than trying to manage other people’s perceptions.
5. Give yourself time before reacting.

That initial wave of hurt doesn’t need to dictate how you respond. Giving yourself a little time to let the emotion pass can help things feel less intense. Often, a bit of distance lets you respond thoughtfully rather than react on impulse.
6. Look for the lesson instead of the wound.

Criticism or rejection stings, but sometimes there’s useful information beneath the hurt. Maybe there’s something to learn about boundaries, communication, or what you need from other people. Finding the lesson doesn’t erase the pain, but it can help make the experience feel more purposeful.
7. Share the weight with trusted people.

Talking things through with someone who understands you can help you sort through what’s real and what might be overthinking. They might see angles you’ve missed or reassure you that it’s not as bad as it seems. Outside perspectives can make things feel less overwhelming.
8. Create space between you and intense moments.

Sometimes a quick walk, a shower, or moving to a different room can break the loop of overthinking. Physical distance often creates mental distance, helping you shift out of reaction mode. Even small changes in setting can make a big difference.
9. Challenge your inner critic.

That voice that jumps to worst-case conclusions doesn’t always tell the truth. Questioning its authority over your feelings is a way to keep it in check. The inner critic is just fear trying to protect you, not an all-knowing guide.
10. Build your self-trust muscle.

Keeping promises to yourself and following through on small commitments helps build a sense of self-trust. Each time you show up for yourself, you strengthen your own support system. This kind of self-trust makes other people’s opinions feel less earth-shattering.
11. Notice when past wounds get triggered.

Sometimes, current situations hurt more because they poke at old memories or insecurities. A comment today might sting because it echoes something you’ve heard before. Recognising these patterns helps separate past pain from what’s really happening now.
12. Get curious instead of critical.

When something hurts, try approaching it with curiosity rather than judgment. Asking yourself what’s really happening beneath the surface often takes the edge off. Curiosity creates a little space between you and the initial hurt, giving you a chance to see it from a fresh perspective.
13. Keep evidence of your worth.

Save those kind messages, reminders of things you’ve handled well, and moments you’re proud of. Building a collection of these little affirmations gives you something to look back on when self-doubt starts to creep in. These reminders help you stay grounded when life feels rough.
14. Practice selective attention.

Not everything deserves your full emotional energy. Some comments or situations can go straight to the “not my problem” file. Being selective about what you take to heart helps protect your peace and keeps you focused on what really matters.
15. Own your sensitivity as a strength.

Being attuned to other people’s feelings and picking up on subtleties isn’t a flaw. Your sensitivity likely makes you empathetic, creative, and understanding. Working with this part of you rather than against it often makes things feel a lot lighter.
16. Create mental boundaries.

Picture your mind as a house—you get to decide what enters and what stays out. Other people’s moods, opinions, and drama don’t automatically get a key to your mental space. Internal boundaries are just as important as external ones.
17. Remember you’re not alone in this.

Everyone’s figuring life out, dealing with their own insecurities and overthinking moments. Knowing everyone else has similar struggles can help ease the weight of taking things personally. We’re all just doing our best with the sensitivity we have.