Relationships thrive on the small, everyday gestures that show care and consideration.
This works both ways — it’s not up to men to be the constant romancers and do all the “chasing”, by any means. Nevertheless, men are a lot simpler to please than women, and many of us often find ourselves left wanting when it comes to what our male partners bring to the table. Fellas, if you’re reading this, the woman in your life would love if you did these things a little more often.
1. Actively listen without trying to solve every problem
Often, women just want to be heard. When she’s sharing her day or expressing her feelings, give her your full attention. Make eye contact, nod, and show you’re engaged. Resist the urge to immediately offer solutions unless she specifically asks for advice. Sometimes, simply listening and validating her feelings is all she needs to feel supported and understood.
2. Surprise her with small, thoughtful gestures
It’s not about grand gestures, but rather the little things that show you’re thinking of her. Maybe it’s bringing her favourite snack home, sending a sweet text during the day, or leaving a note where she’ll find it. These small acts of kindness demonstrate that you care about her happiness and are thinking of her even when you’re apart.
3. Share the mental load of household management
Take initiative in remembering important dates, planning meals, or managing household tasks without being asked. Many women feel burdened by the invisible mental load of running a household. By proactively taking on some of this responsibility, you’re showing that you view the relationship as a true partnership and value her time and energy as much as your own.
4. Express appreciation for the things she does
Acknowledge and thank her for the things she does, both big and small. Whether it’s cooking dinner, keeping the house tidy, or supporting your goals, showing gratitude goes a long way. Some genuine appreciation helps her feel valued and recognised for her contributions to your life and the relationship.
5. Be more open about your feelings
Many women wish their partners would be more emotionally expressive. Share your thoughts, fears, and joys more freely. Vulnerability creates deeper emotional intimacy and helps her feel more connected to you. It also creates a safe space for both of you to be your authentic selves within the relationship.
6. Plan dates or activities without prompting
Take the initiative to plan outings or date nights — it shows that you’re invested in spending quality time together and keeping the relationship fresh and exciting. It doesn’t have to be elaborate – even planning a simple picnic or a movie night at home can mean a lot. The effort you put into planning demonstrates your commitment to nurturing your connection.
7. Offer physical affection without expectation
Show physical affection that isn’t always tied to sexual intimacy. It could be holding hands, giving a hug, or a gentle kiss on the forehead. These gestures of tenderness help maintain a sense of closeness and emotional connection. They reassure her of your love and attraction without putting pressure on her for more.
8. Remember and acknowledge important dates
Make an effort to remember and celebrate significant dates like anniversaries, birthdays, or other milestones that are important to her. This shows that you value the history you share and the moments that are meaningful to her. It doesn’t always require grand gestures – even a heartfelt card or a special meal can make her feel cherished.
9. Initiate meaningful conversations about the future
Show interest in discussing your future together. That doesn’t mean you need to have everything planned out, but being open to conversations about your goals, dreams, and plans demonstrates your commitment to the relationship. It helps her feel secure and allows you both to align your visions for the future.
10. Compliment her on more than just her appearance
While compliments about her looks are appreciated, also acknowledge her intelligence, skills, and character. Recognise her achievements, praise her problem-solving abilities, or express admiration for her strength. A bit of well-rounded appreciation shows that you value her as a whole person, not just for her physical attributes.
11. Share in the emotional labour of family and social obligations
Take an active role in maintaining relationships with family and friends. Remember birthdays, organise get-togethers, or take the lead in planning family visits. Many women feel they bear the brunt of maintaining social connections, so sharing this responsibility can be a significant relief and show of support.
12. Be more attentive to her non-verbal cues
Pay attention to her body language and tone of voice. Sometimes, what she’s not saying is as important as what she is saying. Being attuned to these subtle cues can help you understand her moods and needs better, allowing you to respond more effectively and show that you’re truly in tune with her.
13. Make an effort with her friends and family
Show genuine interest in getting to know and spending time with the people who are important to her. Engage in conversations with her friends and family, remember details about their lives, and be welcoming when they’re around. Being willing to put in this effort proves that you value the relationships that matter to her and see them as an extension of your life together.
14. Be more present during quality time together
When you’re spending time together, be fully present. Put away your phone, turn off the TV, and give her your undivided attention. Your focused presence shows that you prioritise your time together and value the connection you share. It creates opportunities for deeper conversations and strengthens your emotional bond.
15. Take care of yourself
Prioritise your physical and mental health. It’s not just about maintaining attraction, but about showing that you value yourself and the relationship enough to be the best version of yourself. When you take care of your own well-being, you’re better equipped to be a supportive and engaged partner.
16. Apologise sincerely when you’re wrong
Source: Unsplash When you make a mistake or hurt her feelings, offer a genuine apology. Take responsibility for your actions without making excuses, and show that you understand why she’s upset. Follow up your apology with changed behaviour. This accountability builds trust and shows emotional maturity.
17. Support her personal goals and interests
Show enthusiasm for her passions and ambitions, even if they’re different from yours. Encourage her to pursue her interests and celebrate her achievements. Doing so demonstrates that you value her individuality and want her to grow and thrive as a person, not just as your partner.
18. Be more hands-on with household chores
Take initiative in keeping the living space clean and organised without being asked. Notice when things need to be done and do them proactively. Equal participation in household maintenance shows respect for your shared space and acknowledgment of the work involved in running a home.
19. Show interest in her day-to-day life
Ask about her day and remember the details she shares. Follow up on things she’s mentioned before, like a work project or a friend’s situation. Showing ongoing interest makes it clear that you care about her daily experiences and want to be involved in all aspects of her life, not just the big moments.
20. Be patient and understanding during difficult times
When she’s going through a tough period, whether it’s work stress, health issues, or personal challenges, show patience and understanding. Offer support without judgment, give her space when she needs it, and be a steady presence she can rely on. Your unwavering support during hard times strengthens your bond and shows the depth of your commitment to the relationship.
