It’s hard to love ourselves sometimes, but some people never do — and it’s a serious problem.

It’s not always obvious, but there are subtle signs that someone might be their own worst enemy. People who do these things don’t just lack self-love, they’re full of self-loathing, and it’s probably making them miserable (even if they’d never admit it).
1. They can’t take a compliment to save their lives.

Tell them they look nice, and they’ll give you a laundry list of why you’re wrong. It’s like they’ve got an allergic reaction to praise. Deep down, they just can’t square kind words with how they see themselves.
2. They’re always “too busy” for self-care.

Suggest a spa day or even just a nap, and they’ll rattle off a million reasons why they can’t possibly take time for themselves. It’s as if they don’t think they deserve a break or any form of pampering.
3. Their inner critic is on loudspeaker.

You know that voice in your head that sometimes says mean things? They’ve given theirs a megaphone. They’ll openly berate themselves for the tiniest mistakes, often making everyone else uncomfortable in the process.
4. They’re perfectionists to a fault.

Nothing they do is ever good enough. They’ll redo tasks a hundred times, always finding some flaw. It’s not about high standards; it’s about never feeling worthy of success.
5. They apologise for breathing.

Okay, not literally, but close. “Sorry” is their favourite word, even when they’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. It’s like they’re apologising for existing in other people’s space.
6. They’re always the punchline of their own jokes.

Self-deprecating humour can be funny, but with people who hate themselves, it’s constant and cuts a little too deep. It’s less about making people laugh and more about beating them to the punch.
7. They have a “kick me” sign on their back (metaphorically).

They let people treat them like doormats and then blame themselves for it. Setting boundaries seems like a foreign concept to them.
8. They’re commitment-phobes.

Not just in relationships, but in life. They’ll avoid putting their name down for anything, fearing they’ll let people down. It’s easier to stay uninvolved than risk failure.
9. They’re always “fine” (even when they’re clearly not).

Ask how they’re doing, and “fine” is the automatic response, even if they’re clearly struggling. They don’t think their true feelings are worth sharing or that anyone would care.
10. They’re the kings and queens of negative self-talk.

Listen closely, and you’ll hear a constant stream of “I can’t,” “I’m so stupid,” or “I’ll never be good enough.” It’s like they’ve got a greatest hits album of put-downs on repeat in their head.
11. They neglect their physical health.

Regular check-ups? Eating well? Exercise? Nah. It’s not forgetfulness; it’s a lack of self-worth that makes them think their health isn’t a priority.
12. They think everyone else is better than them.

In their eyes, everyone else is doing better, looking better, and just being better. They’re constantly measuring themselves against other people and coming up short.
13. They sabotage their own success.

Just when things are going well, they’ll do something to mess it up. It’s like they don’t believe they deserve good things, so they make sure they don’t last.
14. They have a hard time making decisions.

Choosing a restaurant becomes a major ordeal. They second-guess every choice, big or small because they don’t trust their own judgment.
15. They’re always chasing validation.

They need constant reassurance that they’re doing okay. It’s exhausting for those around them, but they can’t seem to generate any self-approval.
16. They hold grudges against themselves.

They’ll forgive people, but that embarrassing thing they did five years ago? They’re still beating themselves up about it. Their personal history is a long list of regrets and self-recrimination.
17. They hide their true selves.

They’re chameleons, always adapting to what they think other people want. Ask about their genuine interests or opinions, and you’ll get a deer-in-headlights look. They’re so used to trying to please other people that they’ve lost touch with who they really are.