Everyone gets lonely every now and again, but for some people, it becomes so pervasive that it’s overwhelming.
Source: Unsplash When someone feels incredibly isolated and starts to feel desperate, they can act in ways that are completely out of character and are actually quite sad. Here are some things they might do when they get to this stage. If you notice someone struggling in these ways, or you are yourself, please don’t hesitate to get the help you need.
1. They’re glued to their phone like it’s a lifeline.
Source: Unsplash When feeling disconnected, a phone can become your go-to for any sense of connection. Constantly refreshing apps or waiting for a message gives a fleeting distraction from feeling alone. But no amount of likes or notifications can replace real, in-person connections.
2. They’re overly friendly with delivery drivers.
When your Amazon or UberEats delivery person becomes your most regular human contact, it’s a sign loneliness has taken over. Ordering things just for the chat? It’s not about the packages—it’s about hearing a friendly voice, even if it’s just for a minute.
3. Serial dating becomes a habit.
Loneliness can make you swipe right on everyone, not because you’re looking for love, but because you’re just seeking someone—anyone—to fill the void. It’s less about finding “the one” and more about avoiding time spent alone.
4. They turn into the office chatterbox.
Suddenly, they’re the person who’s always hanging around the coffee machine, eager for a chat, even with people they barely know. It’s not just boredom—it’s a real craving for human interaction, even in the most mundane spaces.
5. They adopt every stray animal in sight.
Pets are wonderful companions, but adopting one after another can sometimes be a response to feeling isolated. Animals offer unconditional love, but deep down, these lonely adopters know their furry friends can’t fully fill the void.
6. They overshare with strangers.
Whether it’s the grocery store clerk or a random person on the bus, they’re spilling their life story to anyone who will listen. It’s not that they’re oblivious—it’s just that the loneliness is pushing them to reach out wherever they can.
7. They’re a total gym rat all of a sudden.
Exercise is great for mental health, but spending all your free time at the gym might signal more than just a fitness kick. The gym can be an excuse to be around people, even if those people aren’t engaging in any conversation.
8. They turn into a party animal.
All of a sudden, they’re saying yes to every event, not because they love a good party, but because they can’t stand being at home alone. It’s not about the fun anymore—it’s just about filling the silence.
9. They’re suddenly a serial hobbyist.
Taking up new hobbies can be fun, but when someone’s hopping from one to another, it can be a sign they’re searching for people more than passion. From knitting groups to rock climbing, it’s all about finding a community.
10. Their social media is full of info no one needs or wants.
Source: Unsplash Constant updates, oversharing, and endless selfies can be cries for attention. It’s like they’re shouting into the digital void, hoping someone will see them and engage.
11. They start working more and more.
Staying late at the office or volunteering for extra projects isn’t just dedication—it can also be a way to avoid going home to an empty house. Work becomes an easy escape from facing how lonely they’re feeling.
12. They get back in touch with their exes.
Scrolling through old contacts and messaging an ex “just to check in” is more about craving any connection, even one that didn’t work out. It’s about filling a void, not reigniting romance.
13. They suddenly become a foodie.
Source: Unsplash Cooking elaborate meals for one and snapping pictures of every dish? It’s less about the food and more about distracting themselves with a hobby, hoping for a little interaction from the likes and comments.
14. Netflix is their new best friend.
Source: Unsplash Endless binge-watching becomes the go-to comfort. They’re not just watching; they’re escaping into the lives of fictional characters because it’s easier than confronting how lonely they feel in real life.
15. People-pleasing is a way of life.
Saying yes to everything, even things they don’t want to do, can be a sign they’re desperate for approval and affection. They’re afraid if they say no, people might leave them behind.
16. They start shopping up a storm.
Retail therapy becomes a way to fill time and gain momentary satisfaction. It’s not really about the things they’re buying, but about the brief interaction with someone or the excitement of receiving something new.
17. They live vicariously through other people.
They’ve become intensely invested in other people’s lives, whether it’s friends, family, or even celebrities. It’s like they’re living through other people’s drama and excitement because they’re lacking those connections in their own life.
