Everyone has habits that other people find strange or even obnoxious.
That doesn’t mean you should change who you are, but a bit of self-awareness means you’re less likely to do things that paint you in a less than flattering light, at least when you’re with other people. Here are some of the accidental annoyances you may want to skip when you’re in public for the sake of your reputation.
1. Checking your phone constantly
Being glued to your phone can make people feel unimportant, like they’re competing with a screen. It’s easy to forget how it looks when you’re scrolling while someone’s talking to you. Staying present shows you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying. A little phone-free time goes a long way in making people feel valued.
2. Speaking over people
It’s easy to get excited and jump in, but cutting someone off can come across as disrespectful. Interrupting can make people feel like their thoughts aren’t worth hearing. Letting people finish shows that you’re listening and gives conversations a natural flow. Taking a breath before you jump in can keep things balanced.
3. Being late without a heads-up
Life happens, and sometimes we’re running late, but showing up late without notice can make people feel like their time isn’t valued. It’s a small gesture, but sending a quick text to let them know you’re on your way makes a big difference. Punctuality shows respect and keeps things moving smoothly.
4. Talking too loudly
Sometimes, without realising it, we can take over a room just with our volume. Being too loud can make people feel overstimulated or like they’re in the spotlight themselves. Toning it down helps create a comfortable atmosphere for everyone. Paying attention to your volume can make things more pleasant for those around you.
5. Oversharing personal details about your life
Source: Unsplash It’s great to be open, but going too deep too soon can be overwhelming for people. Sharing a little at a time keeps things more balanced and lets the relationship grow naturally. It’s about reading the room and knowing when to hold back. Letting conversations unfold helps people connect at their own pace.
6. Constantly bringing the conversation back to yourself
Source: Unsplash We all want to share our own experiences, but if you’re always steering the conversation back to you, it can feel one-sided. Asking questions and showing interest in other people’s lives goes a long way. Conversations should feel like a two-way street, not just a spotlight on one person.
7. Taking food from shared dishes without asking
Reaching for the last slice of pizza or taking a handful of fries from someone else’s plate without asking can be frustrating. Food boundaries are a thing, and it’s always better to check first. Being mindful of people’s space and preferences shows you’re considerate. A simple “mind if I have some?” can make all the difference.
8. Leaving a mess behind
Leaving your things scattered around, whether at home, the office, or someone else’s space, can feel disrespectful to those who have to live with it. It’s easy to overlook, but tidying up after yourself shows you care about shared spaces. A little clean-up effort can make everyone feel more comfortable.
9. Taking forever to respond to texts or calls
We’re all busy, but taking days to reply can make people feel like they’re not a priority. People understand delays, but consistent late replies can come across as dismissive. Being a bit quicker to respond keeps connections warm and lets people know you care about staying in touch.
10. Using speakerphone in public
Taking calls on speakerphone in public can be intrusive for those around you. Not everyone wants to hear your conversation or the other person’s voice blaring out loud. Switching to headphones or keeping calls private is a small gesture that makes a big difference for those nearby.
11. Not holding the door for the person behind you
It’s a small thing, but letting the door close behind you when someone’s right there can come across as rude. A quick gesture to hold it open shows you’re mindful of other people. Small acts of courtesy make shared spaces feel friendlier and more welcoming.
12. Over-apologising for everything
Saying sorry is polite, but if you’re constantly apologising, it can make people feel like they need to reassure you. Over-apologising can also take the focus away from the actual issue. Being more mindful of when it’s truly necessary to apologise helps keep things genuine.
13. Hovering over people’s shoulders
Standing too close or looking over someone’s shoulder, especially if they’re working, can make them feel uneasy. Everyone values a bit of personal space, and hovering can feel intrusive. Taking a step back or giving them room to work shows respect for their space.
14. Giving unsolicited advice
Sometimes, people just want to vent without hearing a solution. Jumping in with advice can make it feel like you’re not really listening. Offering support instead of advice lets them know you’re there for them. Waiting until they ask for input helps keep the conversation focused on what they need.
15. Texting or talking during a movie or show
Using your phone while watching something with friends or family can be distracting and take people out of the experience. It’s a shared moment, and giving it your full attention shows you’re present with them. A little focus on the moment helps everyone enjoy it more.
