Apologising is important in life — when you’ve actually done something wrong, that is.
However, if you’ve developed the knee-jerk habit of throwing out a “sorry” for even the most minor infraction or inconvenience, that’s a serious problem. Not only is it unnecessary, but it also weakens the apologies that you actually need to make. If you’re always remorseful over these things, it’s time to stop immediately.
1. Running five minutes late
We’ve all sent that text with three sorry emojis because traffic was bad. Truth is, small delays happen to everyone. A simple “Be there in 5!” actually sounds more confident. Your true friends understand that life isn’t always perfectly on schedule. That traffic jam isn’t your fault, and you’re handling it the best you can.
2. Speaking up in meetings
Starting your idea with “Sorry, but…” makes it sound like you’re doing something wrong. Your thoughts and suggestions matter to the discussion. Speaking directly shows you believe in what you’re saying. The meeting room needs different viewpoints to find the best solutions. Your perspective adds value to the conversation.
3. Asking for clarity
Needing more information doesn’t require an apology. Asking questions shows you’re engaged and thoughtful about getting things right. Clear communication benefits everyone involved. That extra explanation might help more people than just you. Good questions move projects forward.
4. Taking annual leave
Your holiday time belongs to you — it’s part of your work agreement. Planning time off keeps you refreshed and productive. The team manages just fine during everyone’s holidays. A simple “I’ll be taking holiday from these dates” is all that’s needed. Time to recharge isn’t something to feel guilty about.
5. Saying no to extra work
Having a full plate means you’re already committed to important tasks. Being honest about your capacity shows professional awareness. A straightforward “My schedule is full right now” respects both your time and theirs. Setting boundaries helps maintain quality work. Your current projects deserve your best attention.
6. Eating lunch away from your desk
Taking a proper lunch break helps you stay focused for the afternoon. Your sandwich deserves better than keyboard crumbs. A change of scene refreshes your mind. Getting away from your screen gives your eyes a rest. That email can wait thirty minutes.
7. Having different preferences
Not everyone loves spicy food or action movies. Your tastes are simply your tastes. A polite “I prefer…” works perfectly well. Being honest about what you enjoy saves everyone time. Your preferences add variety to the world.
8. Expressing emotion
Feeling moved by a film doesn’t need justification. Happy tears at weddings are perfectly natural. Showing excitement about good news spreads joy. Your feelings are valid parts of being human. Real emotions make life richer.
9. Taking the lift for one floor
Your body knows what it needs each day. Sometimes the stairs aren’t the right choice. That’s what lifts are for — moving people between floors. Nobody else is keeping track of your floor choices. Your energy levels vary, and that’s normal.
10. Receiving a compliment
That project really did turn out well because you worked hard on it. Your new haircut looks great because you chose it carefully. The cake tastes delicious because you followed the recipe. A simple “thank you” honours both the giver and receiver. Your achievements deserve recognition.
11. Asking for payment
Your work has value and bills need paying. Sending invoices is a normal part of business. Clear payment terms help everyone plan better. Following up on overdue payments is professional behaviour. Your services deserve prompt payment.
12. Making a return
Source: Unsplash Sometimes purchases just don’t work out. Shops have return policies for exactly this reason. That jumper looked different at home than in the store. The process exists because everyone occasionally needs it. Returns counters expect to process exchanges.
13. Having a quiet day
Not every message needs an instant response. Some days call for peaceful solitude. Taking time to recharge helps you show up better tomorrow. Your phone has an off switch for good reasons. Quiet time makes busy times more manageable.
14. Changing your mind
New information often shifts perspectives. What worked before might not work now. Growing means sometimes taking different directions. Clear communication about changes helps everyone adjust. Your choices can evolve as you do.
15. Taking up space
Your bag belongs on the seat next to you on the train. Standing comfortably in a queue is allowed. Your trolley has every right to be in the supermarket aisle. Public spaces are meant for everyone to use. Your presence in the world is valid.
16. Being yourself
Your laugh brightens the room even if it’s loud. Those dad jokes make some people groan and other people giggle. Maybe you sing slightly off-key but with great enthusiasm. Your quirks make you uniquely you. The world needs genuine people.
