We all want to be liked, but sometimes our behaviours can unknowingly push people away.

These subtle habits, often deeply ingrained, can create negative impressions and strain relationships without us even noticing. By recognising these off-putting tendencies, we can work on improving our reputation and our relationships with the people around us.
1. You constantly interrupt people during conversations.

Cutting people off mid-sentence is a guaranteed way to irritate them. This habit suggests you value your own thoughts more than theirs and aren’t truly listening. Even if you’re excited to contribute or think you know where the conversation is going, resist the urge to interject. Let people finish their thoughts before adding your own. This shows respect and genuine interest in what they have to say.
2. You dominate conversations with excessive talking about yourself.

While it’s natural to share personal experiences, constantly steering conversations back to yourself can be off-putting. If you find yourself frequently saying “I” or “me” and rarely asking questions about other people, you might be monopolising the dialogue. Try to balance sharing about yourself with showing genuine curiosity about other people’s lives and perspectives.
3. You habitually arrive late to appointments and gatherings.

Chronic lateness sends a message that you don’t value other people’s time. Even if you don’t intend to be disrespectful, consistently showing up late can frustrate friends, colleagues, and acquaintances. Make a conscious effort to plan ahead, anticipate potential delays, and aim to arrive a few minutes early.
4. You frequently complain without offering solutions.

Constant negativity can be draining for those around you. If you find yourself regularly venting about problems without attempting to find solutions, people may start to avoid your company. While it’s okay to express frustrations occasionally, try to balance complaints with positive observations or proactive suggestions.
5. You neglect basic hygiene and grooming.

Poor personal hygiene can be a major turn-off in social situations. Neglecting basics like regular bathing, dental care, or clean clothes can make people uncomfortable in your presence. Even if you’re not conscious of it, other people will notice. Prioritise self-care and grooming as a sign of respect for yourself and those around you. It’s a simple yet effective way to make a positive impression.
6. You constantly check your phone during face-to-face interactions.

Being glued to your mobile device during conversations or gatherings can make people feel unimportant. This habit, known as “phubbing” (phone snubbing), is increasingly common but no less irritating. Make a conscious effort to keep your phone out of sight during social interactions. Give people your full attention, showing that you value their presence and the conversation you’re having.
7. You fail to respect personal boundaries.

Invading other people’s personal space or sharing overly intimate details too soon can make people uncomfortable. Be mindful of physical boundaries and the appropriate level of disclosure for your relationship. Pay attention to social cues and respect when someone seems to need space or privacy.
8. You consistently fail to follow through on commitments.

Repeatedly breaking promises or failing to do what you say you’ll do can seriously damage your relationships. Whether it’s not showing up to planned events or not completing agreed-upon tasks, this habit destroys trust. Be realistic about what you can commit to and make a genuine effort to follow through. If you can’t meet a commitment, communicate promptly and honestly. Reliability is key to maintaining positive relationships.
9. You do a lot of name-dropping or bragging.

Constantly mentioning important people you know or boasting about your achievements can come across as insecure and off-putting. While it’s fine to share successes, doing so excessively or without context can make people feel inferior or annoyed. Focus on having genuine conversations and let your accomplishments speak for themselves. True confidence doesn’t require constant validation from other people.
10. You refuse to admit when you’re wrong.

Stubbornly sticking to your guns even when you’re clearly mistaken can be incredibly frustrating for people. This behaviour suggests a lack of humility and an unwillingness to learn. Practice acknowledging your mistakes and being open to correction. Admitting when you’re wrong shows maturity and can actually increase other people’s respect for you.
11. You frequently use sarcasm or put-downs in your humour.

While witty banter can be enjoyable, relying too heavily on sarcasm or making jokes at other people’s expense can be hurtful and alienating. What you perceive as harmless teasing might be seen as mean-spirited. Be mindful of how your humour lands and avoid making people the butt of your jokes. Opt for more inclusive forms of humour that bring people together rather than singling anyone person out.
12. You consistently one-up other people’s stories or experiences.

Always trying to top someone else’s story or experience can make you seem competitive and attention-seeking. When someone shares something, resist the urge to immediately counter with your own “bigger” or “better” anecdote. Instead, show genuine interest in their story and ask questions.
13. You talk about people behind their backs.

Engaging in frequent gossip might seem like a way to bond, but it often backfires. People may wonder what you say about them when they’re not around. Moreover, constant negativity about other people can be draining. Try to speak nicely about people and avoid spreading rumours. If you must discuss someone’s behaviour, do so constructively and discreetly.
14. You fail to show gratitude or appreciation.

Neglecting to say “thank you” or show appreciation for other people’s efforts can make you seem entitled or ungrateful. Whether it’s a small favour or a significant gesture, acknowledging people’s kindness is important. Make a habit of expressing gratitude sincerely and regularly. It makes people feel valued and just creates more pleasant relationships.
15. You constantly look for validation or fish for compliments.

Repeatedly looking for reassurance or fishing for compliments can be exhausting for those around you. This behaviour often stems from insecurity but can come across as needy or self-centred. Work on building your self-confidence internally rather than relying on external validation. When you do receive compliments, accept them graciously without downplaying or immediately returning them.
16. You dismiss or belittle other people’s interests and passions.

Mocking or dismissing things that other people care about, even if they don’t align with your interests, can be hurtful and off-putting. Everyone has different passions, and belittling them suggests a lack of respect for diverse perspectives. Show curiosity about other people’s interests, even if you don’t share them.