Marriage is about teamwork, but that doesn’t mean one person should carry the whole load.

You should be there to love and support your husband, but you don’t have to run his entire life for him. Here are some things that simply aren’t your responsibility as a wife – and you should never feel pressured to deal with them. Boundaries are important — you should know that by now.
1. Fixing all of his problems

We all go through tough things in life, but his personal issues aren’t yours to solve. Offering support is kind, but it’s not your job to play therapist. He needs space to learn and grow on his own terms. You’re his partner, not his problem-solver.
2. Being his social coordinator

You don’t need to manage his friendships, family gatherings, or plans with friends. His social life is his responsibility, and he can handle his own calls and catch-ups. This independence helps keep your relationship balanced. Let him take charge of his own social calendar.
3. Knowing where everything is

If he’s constantly asking, “Honey, where’s my…?” it’s okay to remind him that he lives there too. You don’t need to keep track of all his belongings. He can find his own things without relying on you to keep tabs. Life’s a bit smoother when he’s self-sufficient.
4. Entertaining him when he’s bored

Everyone gets bored, but you don’t need to be his 24/7 entertainment source. He can find ways to keep himself occupied when you’re doing your own thing. Having independent hobbies is healthy for both of you. It’s okay to enjoy your personal space, too.
5. Managing his emotional state

We all have moods, but it’s not on you to keep him happy every minute of the day. Emotional balance is a personal journey, and he’s got to find his own ways to handle it. Supporting each other doesn’t mean carrying each other’s emotional burdens. He can handle his own ups and downs.
6. Handling all the household tasks

It’s a shared space, and chores should be shared too. You’re not the default housekeeper – he can pitch in just as much as you do. Dividing household tasks keeps resentment at bay. A team approach makes for a happier home.
7. Being his “everything”

Expecting one person to meet every need is unrealistic and a lot to ask. It’s perfectly okay to encourage him to have hobbies, friends, and outlets outside of your relationship. Each of you should feel supported to be your own person. Having separate interests keeps things interesting.
8. Making every decision for him

He’s an adult and capable of making his own choices, big or small. While it’s nice to have input, you shouldn’t feel responsible for all the decision-making. Sharing responsibilities helps prevent burnout and keeps things fair. Let him take the lead when it’s his choice to make.
9. Monitoring his spending

Everyone’s finances are personal, and he should be accountable for his own spending habits. As long as you’re both communicating about big expenses, you’re not his financial manager. Trust and transparency make a healthy financial partnership. He’s responsible for his own financial discipline.
10. Taking on his family drama

Family issues happen, but they don’t have to be your stress too. You can support him without getting fully involved in every situation. It’s perfectly okay to step back when things get messy. Boundaries can protect both of you from unnecessary tension.
11. Remembering everything for him

You don’t need to be his human calendar. He can remember his own appointments, birthdays, and to-dos. Taking responsibility for his schedule helps him stay organised. A shared calendar is helpful, but the responsibility shouldn’t fall solely on you.
12. Making him feel “manly”

Confidence is an inside job, and you’re not responsible for maintaining his sense of masculinity. Support him, yes, but don’t feel pressured to boost his ego constantly. He’s in charge of how he feels about himself. A secure partnership doesn’t require you to fill his self-esteem gaps.
13. Always being in the mood for intimacy

Intimacy should be mutual and not something you’re solely responsible for. Relationships go through phases, and it’s normal not to always be on the same page. Your feelings are just as valid, and mutual respect is key. It’s okay to communicate openly about where you’re both at.
14. Handling his friends’ or family’s expectations of you

Everyone has their opinions, but you don’t have to live up to his friends’ or family’s vision of “the perfect wife.” Be yourself and let him manage those outside expectations. Staying true to yourself is the best way to keep things real. You’re part of the family on your own terms.
15. Making sacrifices you’re uncomfortable with

Marriage involves compromise, but you shouldn’t be sacrificing your happiness or comfort for him. Your well-being matters just as much as his, and it’s okay to set boundaries. A strong partnership values both people’s needs equally. Keeping a balance means both of you thrive.