Once you escape a narcissistic relationship, it’s easy to assume that life will automatically go back to the way it was before.

However, that’s not always the case. Suffering from narcissistic abuse can change who you are at your core, and it inevitably leaves you with wounds that will take time and a lot of work to heal. However, the further away from it (and them) you get, the more little glimmers of hope begin to appear, letting you know that you’re finally healing.
1. You’re starting to trust your own judgement again.

Narcissists thrive on making you doubt yourself, but now you’re learning to trust your instincts. Whether it’s making decisions or recognising red flags, you’re becoming more confident in your own judgement. It feels liberating to listen to yourself again.
2. You no longer feel the need to justify everything.

In the past, you may have explained every thought or action to avoid criticism. Now, you’re realising you don’t owe anyone an explanation for living your life. It’s refreshing to just *be* without constantly defending yourself.
3. You’re setting and sticking to boundaries.

Remember when your boundaries were steamrolled over? Now you’re learning to set limits and, more importantly, enforce them. Saying “no” or walking away when someone crosses the line is a powerful sign of healing. Boundaries are your new best friend.
4. You’re no longer obsessed with their approval.

Once upon a time, their validation was everything. But now, you realise you don’t need it. You’re finding confidence from within and letting go of the need to please them. Their opinion doesn’t define you anymore, and that’s freedom.
5. You’re rediscovering your own interests.

During the relationship, your likes and passions may have been overshadowed. Now, you’re reconnecting with hobbies and interests that make you feel alive. Whether it’s painting, hiking, or binge-watching old sitcoms, these little joys are a sign you’re reclaiming yourself.
6. You feel less anxious when your phone buzzes.

Constant dread at every message or call used to be your normal. But now, the fear is fading. Your phone is just a phone again — not a source of constant anxiety. That peace is a clear sign you’re moving on.
7. You’re recognising manipulation tactics faster.

You’ve become a bit of a human lie detector, spotting gaslighting and guilt-tripping a mile away. Recognising these tactics means you’re less likely to fall for them again. Your awareness is sharper, and you’re ready to protect yourself.
8. You’re starting to feel joy and laughter again.

There was a time when joy felt like a distant memory. But now, moments of laughter and happiness are sneaking back in. Whether it’s a funny meme or a good chat with a friend, those little bursts of joy are signs of healing.
9. You’re connecting with supportive people.

You’re gravitating towards people who respect and uplift you. Toxic relationships are starting to feel like the exception, not the rule. Surrounding yourself with positive, understanding people shows you’re choosing connections that serve your well-being.
10. You no longer blame yourself for everything.

Narcissistic abuse often leaves you believing everything was your fault. But now, you’re realising that’s not true. You’re starting to understand where their behaviour ended and your responsibility began. Self-compassion is slowly replacing self-blame.
11. You’re feeling less fear of being alone.

Being on your own might have once felt terrifying, but now you’re embracing it. Alone time feels peaceful, not lonely. You’re discovering that you enjoy your own company, and you don’t need anyone else to complete you.
12. You’re finding it easier to make decisions.

Constant second-guessing was a side effect of the manipulation. Now, you’re more decisive and trusting yourself to make the right call. Each decision, big or small, feels like a step towards independence and confidence.
13. You’re not constantly replaying past conversations.

Those endless mental loops of “What did I do wrong?” or “What should I have said?” are starting to fade. You’re spending less time overanalysing and more time living in the present. Letting go of the mental reruns means you’re moving forward.
14. You’re focusing on your future, not their opinion.

Their opinion used to hang over your head like a dark cloud. Now, you’re looking ahead to your goals, dreams, and plans. Their thoughts no longer take up space in your mind, and your future feels bright and full of possibility.
15. You’re feeling proud of how far you’ve come.

Healing isn’t easy, but here you are, making progress. You’re starting to appreciate your strength and resilience. The fact that you’re here, reading this, and recognising these signs is proof you’re on the right path. And that’s something to be proud of.