Good manners never go out of style, but sadly, some of them seem to be on the verge of extinction.
Basic courtesy and consideration aren’t particularly hard, but you wouldn’t know that given how little of it some people seem to show. It’s particularly noticeable in younger people, who don’t appear to have been taught these lessons by their parents. One thing’s for sure: The world would be a much better place if they were!
1. Saying “please” and “thank you” consistently
These two simple words go a long way, but they’re increasingly forgotten. Whether asking for a snack or getting help with homework, “please” and “thank you” show appreciation and respect. Without them, requests can come off as demands. Kids who use these magic words grow up knowing that kindness and gratitude matter.
2. Holding the door open for people
It’s a small gesture, but it speaks volumes. Holding the door for someone behind you — regardless of age or gender — shows thoughtfulness. Too often, people barrel through doors without a glance. Teaching kids to look back and hold the door shows them the importance of small acts of kindness. Plus, no one likes a door slammed in their face.
3. Greeting people properly
“Hi” or “Good morning” can brighten someone’s day, but kids are sometimes too glued to their screens to acknowledge other people. A simple, cheerful greeting shows friendliness and respect. Whether it’s a neighbour, a teacher, or a shop assistant, a quick “hello” helps build connections and positive interactions.
4. Making eye contact when speaking
Looking someone in the eye while talking or listening shows confidence and respect. It tells the other person, “I’m here, and I’m paying attention.” Kids who learn this early are better communicators and more empathetic. It helps them build trust and connections — and it’s far more engaging than talking to the top of someone’s head.
5. Covering their mouth when coughing or sneezing
You’d think this one was basic hygiene, but you’d be surprised how often it’s missed. Teaching kids to cover their mouth with a tissue or elbow keeps germs in check and shows consideration for other people. It’s a simple habit that keeps everyone healthier and avoids those awkward “Did you really just sneeze all over the place?” moments.
6. Listening without interrupting
Patience isn’t easy, but learning to let people finish speaking is crucial. Interrupting says, “What I have to say is more important.” Teaching kids to listen fully before responding helps them become more respectful and thoughtful communicators. Plus, everyone likes feeling heard without being cut off.
7. Saying “excuse me” when needing attention
Instead of shouting or tugging on someone’s sleeve, a polite “excuse me” gets attention in a considerate way. Whether they need to pass by someone or ask a question, this phrase shows respect for everyone’s space and time. It’s a small, polite pause that makes interactions smoother.
8. Offering a handshake or polite introduction
Teaching kids to introduce themselves confidently with a handshake or a friendly “Nice to meet you” sets a strong first impression. It shows respect and social awareness. In a world of virtual interactions, a proper introduction can feel like a breath of fresh air — and it helps them stand out for all the right reasons.
9. Saying “sorry” and meaning it
Apologies are important, but they lose value when they’re mumbled or insincere. Teaching kids to say “sorry” genuinely when they’ve done something wrong helps them understand accountability. It also teaches empathy by acknowledging someone else’s feelings. A real apology can smooth over mistakes and build stronger relationships.
10. Respecting personal space
It’s not just about standing too close — it’s about understanding boundaries. Kids should learn to respect everyone’s personal space, whether it’s not grabbing someone’s belongings or giving someone room to breathe. This habit creates a sense of respect and helps avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations.
11. Chewing with their mouth closed
Nobody enjoys the sound or sight of someone chewing loudly with their mouth open. Teaching kids to eat quietly and neatly shows respect for those around them. Table manners like this make shared meals far more enjoyable and help kids feel confident in social settings. Plus, it’s a habit that sticks with them for life.
12. Using polite table manners
Basic table manners — like not reaching across the table, using utensils properly, and waiting for everyone to be served — are fading fast. But they make meals more pleasant and less chaotic. Teaching these little courtesies helps kids feel comfortable dining anywhere, from family dinners to formal events.
13. Writing thank-you notes
A handwritten thank-you note might seem old-fashioned, but it’s a meaningful way to show gratitude. Whether for a gift, a favour, or someone’s time, taking a few minutes to write a note shows thoughtfulness. It’s a habit that helps kids appreciate kindness and stand out in a world of quick texts and emails.
14. Waiting their turn
Patience is a virtue, but it’s not always taught. Whether it’s in conversation, during games, or in queues, waiting their turn shows respect for other people. It teaches kids that the world doesn’t revolve around instant gratification. Plus, no one likes a line-cutter or someone who always hogs the spotlight.
15. Being kind to servers, shop assistants, and workers
How someone treats service staff says a lot about them. Teaching kids to be polite and say “please” and “thank you” to servers, shop assistants, and workers helps them develop empathy and respect. A simple “thank you” or “have a nice day” shows appreciation for people who often go unnoticed. Kindness in these everyday interactions makes the world a little better.
