Narcissists hate being wrong, largely because they think they never are. As a result, if you dare to disagree with them, you’re in for a whole world of pain. Here are some ways they’re likely to try and put you in your place for not going along with their every whim.
The Silent Treatment

This is a classic. They’ll freeze you out, hoping you’ll crack and come crawling back, desperate for their approval. Don’t fall for it. Their silence is about control, not your well-being. Go about your life, and if they bring it up later, act confused: “Did I do something wrong? You’ve been distant.”
The Guilt Trip

They’ll paint you as the villain, twisting the disagreement and making it seem like your fault they’re upset. “How could you do this to me after everything I’ve done for you?” Don’t JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain), PsychCentral warns. A simple, “We can agree to disagree,” and a subject change is all you need.
The Smear Campaign

They badmouth you to anyone who will listen, portraying you as crazy, difficult, or ungrateful. Don’t waste your energy trying to defend yourself. Real friends will see through the lies, and the fake ones weren’t worth keeping anyway.
The Gaslighting

They’ll deny ever saying something, rewrite history, and make you question your own sanity. “I never said that! You must be misremembering.” Trust your gut. Document important conversations if necessary, and don’t let them twist reality.
The Public Humiliation

They might belittle, mock, or criticize you in front of others to make you feel small and insignificant. Public humiliation is a power play. Leave the situation if you can, or hold your head high and don’t give them the satisfaction of seeing you squirm.
The Guilt Gift

They show up with flowers or some other “peace offering” after a fight, hoping you’ll forget the disagreement. This is manipulation, not an apology. If you accept the gift, acknowledge it but don’t forget the issue at hand.
The Rage Outburst

They might turn explosive, yelling, name-calling, or threatening you to get their way. Don’t engage with their tantrum. Stay calm, state clear boundaries (“I won’t be spoken to like that”), and walk away if necessary.
The Pity Party

They’ll play the victim, claiming you’re the reason for their misery. “Look what you’ve done to me!” Don’t own their emotions. “You’re responsible for your own happiness,” is a perfectly good response.
Withholding Love/Affection

They turn cold and distant, denying you emotional intimacy and making you feel unworthy of their love. This is a cruel power play. Don’t chase their affection; they’re manipulating you. Focus on self-love and know you deserve better.
The Dismissive Shrug

They minimize your disagreement by acting indifferent or flippant. “Whatever, I don’t even care.” This is designed to make you feel unimportant and belittle your perspective. Don’t take the bait or let them invalidate your feelings.
Changing the Subject

They abruptly change topics or shut down the conversation, leaving the disagreement hanging in the air. This evasive tactic disorients you and prevents resolution. Don’t let them steer the conversation away. Firmly bring things back on track – “We haven’t finished discussing this yet.”
False Compromise

They offer a superficially “fair” compromise that actually still benefits them in a subtle way. Narcissists don’t believe in real compromise. Analyze their offer carefully and don’t be afraid to say, “Actually, that doesn’t feel fair to me.”
The False Apology

“I’m sorry you got upset,” or “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” are classic ways of taking zero responsibility. They deflect the blame onto you just to get things done and over with rather than because they feel genuinely remorseful. Don’t accept these empty apologies. A real apology acknowledges their actions and impact.
The Long-Term Grudge

They hold onto even minor disagreements, bringing them up again and again as leverage. This keeps you walking on eggshells, always afraid to upset them. Refuse to revisit old arguments settled in the past. Firmly say, “We already talked about this, let’s move on.”