We all put up with things that drain our energy and our happiness, but what if we just… let go of those things?
Our tolerance for negativity is far too high, and it’s time we start creating more space for the things that make us feel fulfilled and content. This isn’t about being selfish; it’s about setting healthy boundaries and putting yourself first. So, what are some things we should stop putting up with?
1. People who consistently disrespect your boundaries
Whether it’s a friend who constantly cancels plans at the last minute, a colleague who oversteps professional boundaries, or a family member who disregards your personal space, it’s time to stop tolerating people who don’t respect you. Remember, boundaries aren’t selfish — they exist for your protection and the health and longevity of your relationships, to be fair. Learn to communicate your needs assertively and distance yourself from those who consistently violate your boundaries. Your peace of mind is worth it.
2. Comparing yourself to other people
Especially thanks to social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other people. But remember, everyone’s journey is unique. Your life isn’t a competition, and comparing yourself to literally anyone else will only steal your joy and make you feel inadequate. Instead, focus on your own strengths, celebrate your achievements, and be kind to yourself. Embrace your individuality and stop letting comparison steal your happiness.
3. Negative self-talk
That voice in your head that constantly criticises, doubts, and belittles you? It’s time to silence it. Negative self-talk is like a poison that eats away at your self-esteem and holds you back from reaching your full potential. Challenge those negative thoughts with positive affirmations, focus on your strengths, and surround yourself with supportive people who lift you up. Remember, you are capable, worthy, and deserving of love and happiness.
4. Procrastination and putting things off
We all procrastinate sometimes, but if it’s a chronic habit, it can lead to stress, overwhelm, and missed opportunities. Putting things off doesn’t make them go away; it just creates a bigger pile of problems later on. Start small, break down tasks into manageable chunks, and set deadlines for yourself. The sense of accomplishment you’ll feel after completing a task, no matter how small, will motivate you to keep moving forward.
5. Toxic relationships
Relationships that drain your energy, leave you feeling emotionally exhausted, or make you question your self-worth have no place in your life. Whether it’s a romantic partner, friend, or family member, if a relationship is consistently negative and brings you more pain than joy, it might be time to reassess its place in your life. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, support you, and make you feel good about yourself. You deserve to be surrounded by positive and uplifting energy.
6. Clutter and disorganisation
A cluttered environment can lead to a cluttered mind. If your living space or workspace is disorganised and chaotic, it can create stress, overwhelm, and a sense of being out of control. Take some time to declutter, organise, and create a space that feels calm and inviting. A tidy environment can promote clarity, focus, and a sense of peace.
7. Ignoring your intuition
Your gut feeling is often your most reliable guide. If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Trust your intuition and listen to your inner wisdom. Whether it’s a decision you’re making, a relationship you’re in, or a situation you’re facing, if it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Don’t be afraid to trust your gut and make choices that align with your intuition.
8. Saying yes when you really mean no
People-pleasing can be a dangerous habit that leads to resentment, burnout, and a loss of self. It’s okay to say no to things that don’t align with your priorities, values, or energy levels. Don’t overcommit yourself or feel obligated to say yes to every request. Learn to set boundaries, look after yourself, and say no with confidence. Your time and energy are precious resources, so use them wisely.
9. Holding grudges or hating people who’ve hurt oyu
Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning hurtful behaviour; it means freeing yourself from the burden of anger and resentment. Holding grudges has zero impact on the person on the receiving end. It harms you more than anyone else. Learn to let go, forgive (both yourself and other people), and move on. Forgiveness opens the door to healing, peace, and the possibility of rebuilding relationships.
10. Ignoring your passions and dreams
Source: Unsplash Life is too short to live a life that doesn’t light you up. Don’t let fear, self-doubt, or societal expectations hold you back from pursuing your passions and dreams. Whether it’s a hobby, career change, or personal goal, take the leap of faith and go after what you want. You might be surprised by what you’re capable of achieving when you follow your heart and pursue your passions with enthusiasm.
11. Settling for less than you deserve
You deserve a life that is filled with joy, love, and abundance. Don’t settle for mediocrity, toxic relationships, or unfulfilling jobs. Set high standards for yourself and the people you surround yourself with. Don’t be afraid to walk away from situations or relationships that don’t serve you. Remember, you are worthy of love, respect, and happiness. Don’t settle for anything less.
12. Neglecting your self-care
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Whether it’s reading, exercising, spending time in nature, or simply relaxing with a cuppa, incorporate some self-care into your life and make it a non-negotiable part of your routine. When you take care of yourself, you’re better equipped to handle life’s challenges and show up as your best self for other people.
13. Fearing change and the unknown
Change can be scary, but it’s also an inevitable part of life. Embracing change and stepping outside your comfort zone can lead to personal growth, new experiences, and unexpected opportunities. Don’t let fear hold you back from trying new things, exploring different paths, or embracing the unknown. Change can be exciting and lead to a more fulfilling and adventurous life.
14. Worrying about what other people think
Source: Unsplash Living your life according to other people’s opinions is a recipe for unhappiness. You can’t please everyone, and trying to do so will only leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled. Focus on what makes you happy, what aligns with your values, and what feels right for you. Don’t let the fear of judgment or disapproval dictate your choices. Be yourself, embrace your uniqueness, and live a life that is true to your own heart.
