We all have our moments of being the party pooper, but some people manage to take it to a professional level.

If your friends start side-eyeing you during game night or mysteriously “forget” to invite you to spontaneous plans, it might be time to admit that you have a bit of a problem. Here are 14 signs that you might unintentionally be the wet blanket in the group—and how to turn things around without losing your personality.
1. You’re allergic to spontaneity.

When your friends shout, “Let’s go skydiving tomorrow!” and you respond with, “That doesn’t sound very safe,” you might be the buzz kill of the group. While it’s fine to be cautious, shooting down spur-of-the-moment ideas can dampen everyone’s excitement. Maybe try saying, “Tell me more!” before listing reasons it won’t work.
2. You always ask, “But what’s the plan?”

Spontaneous outings are not for the faint of heart, but constantly demanding a detailed itinerary can suck the joy out of an adventure. If you need some structure, try going with the flow at least once. Who knows—you might enjoy the chaos! Besides, not every great memory starts with a colour-coded schedule.
3. You hate group games and make sure everyone knows it.

There’s always one person who groans at the mention of charades or refuses to join in on karaoke. If that’s you, it’s okay to sit one out—but rolling your eyes or pointing out how “silly” the activity is can kill the vibe. Sometimes, a little enthusiasm (or fake enthusiasm) goes a long way in keeping the fun alive.
4. You’re a self-appointed rule enforcer.

If you’re the person who insists everyone plays Monopoly by the exact rules in the booklet, congratulations—you might be the fun police. Relaxing the rules here and there can make group activities more enjoyable for everyone. Pro tip: house rules exist for a reason, and they usually make the game more fun.
5. You’re quick to point out why something won’t work.

“That’s too expensive,” “It’s going to rain,” or “That restaurant will probably be packed” are phrases that send plans straight to the bin. While your practical concerns are valid, they can also drain the energy from a conversation. Try focusing on solutions instead, like finding a workaround or suggesting an alternative.
6. You hate noise—and you let everyone know.

Whether it’s music that’s too loud, laughter that’s too boisterous, or a party that goes past 9 p.m., your complaints about noise can bring the mood down. While your preference for peace and quiet is fair, sometimes letting loose and joining the fun is worth the temporary ruckus. You can always recharge later.
7. You avoid participating in group photos.

When everyone’s trying to capture a memory, but you’re off in the corner muttering, “I hate pictures,” it can dampen the moment. Nobody’s asking for perfection—just a quick smile for the camera. Plus, someday you might look back and wish you had more evidence of these fun times.
8. You’re not a fan of surprises.

If your first reaction to “We’ve planned something special for you!” is dread rather than excitement, it might be a sign you struggle with letting go of control. While surprises aren’t for everyone, showing appreciation for the effort can make the people around you feel good. Fake it ‘til you make it, if necessary.
9. You’re always glued to your phone.

If you’re constantly scrolling during gatherings or checking your email mid-dinner, it sends the message that you’d rather be somewhere else. Being present is key to creating memorable moments, so put the phone down (at least for a bit) and engage with the people around you. Instagram can wait.
10. You have a knack for pointing out the downsides.

“This party would be great if it wasn’t so crowded,” or “The hike was nice, but the bugs were terrible” might be your way of keeping it real—but it can come across as unnecessarily negative. Sometimes, it’s better to let the small inconveniences slide and focus on what’s good. Your friends will thank you for it.
11. You decline invitations more often than you accept them.

It’s okay to skip events now and then, but if your default response is “Nah, I’m good,” people might stop asking. Socialising is a two-way street, and saying yes occasionally shows you value the connection. You don’t have to be a party animal—just showing up counts as effort.
12. You bring up serious topics at the worst times.

A lively dinner party isn’t the ideal place for a deep dive into politics, existential crises, or the finer points of tax law. While meaningful conversations have their place, timing is everything. If everyone else is laughing over silly stories, it’s probably best to save your heavy topics for another day.
13. You’re a little too attached to your comfort zone.

If trying something new or stepping out of your routine feels impossible, you might unintentionally be dampening the group’s vibe. Being open to a bit of adventure, even if it’s not your usual thing, shows your willingness to grow—and makes you more fun to be around. Nobody’s saying you have to skydive, but maybe try the sushi next time.
14. You’re the first to leave.

There’s always that one person who checks out as soon as things get lively. While you’re entitled to leave when you’re tired, constantly ducking out early can feel like a Debbie Downer for everyone else. Even if you’re not the last one standing, sticking around a little longer now and then shows you’re invested in the good times.
How to turn things around

Being a wet blanket doesn’t mean you’re doomed to kill the vibe forever. Self-awareness is the first step, and small changes—like saying yes more often, finding joy in the little things, and letting go of perfectionism—can make a big difference. Remember, fun isn’t about being the loudest or most adventurous; it’s about showing up, being present, and appreciating the moment.