When you’re achieving your goals, most people are supportive, but some may feel a bit uneasy about it.

It’s not that they’re not happy for you, exactly, but they might be insecure and worry that you doing well means fewer opportunities for them (which isn’t true, by the way — there’s room for everyone!). Here are some signs that your success might be making people a bit nervous, and why that’s completely okay.
1. They downplay your achievements.

If someone always seems to have a “that’s nice, but…” response to your successes, they might be uncomfortable with your progress. Downplaying is often their way of keeping things level. You can tell when their support feels a bit forced. Your success doesn’t need their validation to be real.
2. They give you “helpful” criticisms out of the blue.

People might start giving you advice or “constructive criticism” you didn’t ask for. It’s often disguised as being helpful but feels more like a subtle dig. Their advice might not even be relevant to your journey. It’s okay to trust your own path without their input.
3. They try to one-up you.

If every time you share a win, they respond with something “bigger” they’ve done, they might be feeling competitive. One-upping is a way to bring the focus back to them. When people feel the need to compete, it’s usually more about their insecurities. Just keep celebrating your own wins.
4. They become distant.

Sometimes, when people don’t know how to handle your success, they just pull back. It’s not personal – they may just feel out of place or unsure of what to say. Distance can be a sign they’re working through their own feelings. Letting them have their space is often best.
5. They make passive-aggressive comments.

If you start hearing little digs disguised as jokes or “friendly” sarcasm, it could be a sign of discomfort. Passive-aggressive comments are often a way for people to express jealousy without admitting it. It’s usually more about them than you. Your success doesn’t need to be dialled down for anyone.
6. They start bringing up your past mistakes.

Suddenly, they’re reminiscing about that one time you messed up or didn’t know something – it’s a way to remind you (and themselves) of “the old you.” It’s their way of grounding your success to feel more comfortable. You’ve moved forward, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
7. They question your choices or lifestyle.

When people start challenging your decisions or lifestyle changes, it could be their discomfort talking. It’s like they want to remind you that you’re still just like them. People can be set in their ways, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. Your choices are yours alone.
8. They act overly supportive or too enthusiastic.

Sometimes, people will go overboard with praise to mask their real feelings. It can feel insincere or forced, like they’re trying too hard to show they’re “totally cool” with your success. Real support doesn’t need exaggeration. It’s okay to notice when their enthusiasm feels a bit too much.
9. They avoid talking about your achievements.

If they change the subject every time you mention something you’re proud of, they might be uncomfortable. Dodging your achievements is often a sign they’re not sure how to handle them. Not everyone will cheer you on – and that’s okay. Real friends will be happy for you.
10. They bring up how “lucky” you are.

When people start attributing your success to “luck” rather than your hard work, it could be a way of downplaying your efforts. It’s like they’re saying, “Oh, it’s just luck; anyone could do that.” Luck might play a role, but your work is what really made it happen.
11. They’re suddenly “too busy” to hang out.

If people who used to be close start saying they’re too busy or have other priorities, it might be because they’re unsure how to handle your success. It’s often a sign they’re adjusting to the new dynamic. People can have their own insecurities, but don’t let that hold you back.
12. They act differently around mutual friends.

If they’re supportive in private but seem distant or even critical around mutual friends, it might be a sign they’re uncomfortable. Acting one way with you and another with everyone else is usually a sign of mixed feelings. Real friends stay consistent, regardless of the crowd.
13. They suddenly start competing in unrelated areas.

When someone feels challenged by your success, they may try to “beat” you in unrelated areas, like fitness, finances, or hobbies. It’s their way of feeling like they’re still on top. Everyone’s path is different, and comparing just creates unnecessary tension. Keep focusing on your own journey.
14. They don’t ask about your goals or interests anymore.

If people who used to show interest suddenly stop asking about your projects or goals, it could be because they’re uncomfortable hearing about your progress. It’s often a way of keeping distance without directly expressing their discomfort. Stay focused, and keep setting goals that feel right to you.